What is meant here by speaking "honourable words"?

Imām Ibn al-Jawzī (d. 597/1201) summarized the scholars' opinions in his book "Zād al-Masīr" as follows:

1. It means sharing the idea with her indirectly. [Ibn ʿAbbās, Saʿīd ibn Jubayr, ʿAṭāʾ, al-Qāsim ibn Muḥammad, al-Shaʿbī, Mujāhid, Ibrāhīm, Qatādah, al-Suddī]
2. It means informing her guardian of his interest in her. [ʿUbaydah]